Today, August 3, is Ben's 13th birthday! What a blessing he is. I pray that he continues to grow in wisdom and grace, seeking first God in all his ways.
Kurt and Ben went for a father-son retreat for 3 days and 2 nights at a near by nature park. This is something I did with each of the girls when they turned 13 as well. It's a great time to have fun together, discuss purity and growing up issues, though we don't reserve those discussions for just one weekend in each of our children's lives. Parenting is about helping kids grow into adults, discussing sexuality, puberty, purity, and many other topics along the way.
We are thankful for good authors who write books like "Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle", "Five Signs of a Loving Family", "Preparing Your Daughtet for Every Woman's Battle," etc.
We now have three teenagers in our home - Ben, 13; Kirsten, 16; Mikayla, 19.
Currently on my reading list are these books which I highly recommend -
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero
Emotionally Healthy Women by Geri Scazzero
Both these books put succinctly what God has been teaching me here on our missionary journey - to put off the old self, put on the new self, walk in truth, be honest.
From Pete Scazzero's recent blog post:
"God calls us out of living a "pretend life" that accumulates as layers over us as a result of our families of origin and our culture. To find love, value, and worth, we often become people God never intended. Part of the gift of salvation in Christ is a deliverance from our false selves into our true selves in Christ, living out our unique "sealed orders" from Him.
Paul calls us "not to lie to one another" (Col. 3:9) which can be translated, "Don't be false with one another." The following is the brief assessment I shared during the message.
The degree to which we are living out of our false, or pretend, self exists on a continuum that ranges from mild to severe. We are all in process, including myself. Use the simple assessment below to get an idea of where you fall on the continuum. Note each one that describes you.
- I am reluctant to admit my weaknesses and flaws to others.
-I look for the approval of others more than I should
- I am highly "offendable" and defensive when people criticize me.
-I often become harsh and impatient when things are moving too slowly or my expectations are not met.
-I say "yes" when I would rather say "no".
-I beat myself up when I make mistakes.
-I have difficulty speaking up when I disagree or prefer something different.
-I have a number of people I am struggling to forgive.
-My fears often cause me to play it safe "just in case."
-My body is more often in a state of tension and stress than relaxed.
If you checked two or three statements, you may be living out of your false self at times. If you checked four to five, you probably have a moderate case of pretending to be somebody you are not. If you checked six or more, you want to receive this as a gentle wake up call to a deeper journey with Jesus!
James was nebulized every hour throughout the night to help open his airways. His breathing is getting better. Kurt spent the night at the hospital with him. I'm heading up there now. Please keep James in your prayers. Thanks!
James was discharged this afternoon from the hospital. We are thankful he only needed to stay one night in the hospital. He is home now, getting breathing treatments every two hours for the next couple days along with medicines to treat the pneumonia and on-going asthma. Thanks for praying for him.
Please pray for James. He's had asthma since babyhood but today it became very severe and we took him to the emergency room at Davao Docs on the advise of our doctor friend. James was admitted for treatment of severe asthma. Please pray he gets better soon.